Families are Forever

"marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God"

Friday, October 28, 2011

Marriage + Children

Marriage is a constant work of progress, making your relationship with your spouse better. The goals and expectations you make within the first year of marriage will set the stage for the rest of your marriage. Establish traditions, eat meals at the table, and manage your time/schedule with your spouse. When you add children to the picture, you will already have these patterns down.

D&C 121:41-44
By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile—no power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned; reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy; that he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death.

Men and women have different ways of thinking, and when we get irritated with each other, we should contemplate these scriptures. What would happen if we only corrected our spouse when moved upon by the Spirit? Then our spouse would know that we were doing it out of love.

Adding children

When children are born, the family changes. Men start to feel unappreciated, because they don't get the same bonding that a mother and child give each other. People are 3 times more likely to get divorced after a miscarriage or a death of a child.

Women: You are married to your husband, not your children or your mother. Spend time with your spouse. Talk to him. If you have a problem, he is the person to call, not your mom. He takes priority over your children, too.

Men: Your wife loves you and wants you to be happy. You are not just the 'babysitter' but the father.

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